Yes, there is such a thing as de-cluttering before you die. It means going through your possessions before your unhappy relatives do and getting rid of stuff. I began the process three years ago, after my Aunt Helen was put in a care facility. I tell you it is no small chore to completely empty a house.
Getting a cancer diagnosis and undergoing chemotherapy put a halt to the process, as in a complete cabosh (is that the word I want? Is that even a word? Even if it isn't, I want it!) Now that I am feeling better, I have resumed the task. This week my husband and I tackled the garage:part one and the guest bedroom.
(Note: I say garage:part one because I foresee the garage having multiple parts before it is completely cleansed and organized.)
Although it seems daunting at first to going through all of your closets, cupboards, and drawers, once you begin, it's relatively easy. The de-cluttering muse comes upon you, the scales fall from your eyes, and you realize that you did not need to keep that oversize jacket that you never wore after all.
Juxtaposed against this de-cluttering process is a brouhaha, a tempest-in-a-teacup, fomented by a professor at Fresno State University. Apparently this professor posted a tweet denigrating Barbara Bush the day after the former first lady's death. Many people are upset by this; others are supporting the professor right to free speech.
As for me, I think that when a person resorts to name-calling and labeling, they expose themselves as having very little to say. Their ideas and opinions lose credibility with me. On the other hand, I feel sorry for such people because of the baggage they are adding to their character—there are some things that, once they are acquired, cannot be de-cluttered. Name-callers take on baggage that they will carry with them for a lifetime. Good grief! Who wants that? I don't think the name-callers do; I just think they don't realize what they are doing. Poor things.
(Note to self: Take care not to add clutter to your life that you will not be able to get rid of later—and don't leave it to your family members after you are gone. It's not fair.