The PET scan results showed “no new evidence of the disease in the body.” The oncologist said I am doing fantastic and will continue the treatment as planned. That means I have two more chemo infusions. Six weeks after my last infusion, I will have another PET scan; if the results are also good, then my infusion port will be removed. YAY! There was another piece of good news; my white blood cell count was up, so I did not require another injection of Neulasta.
There are large flat screen televisions hanging from the ceiling at the infusion center to help patients pass the time while sitting there. Two of the shows I have been watching are about married couples renovating houses–home improvement. I enjoy watching the old made new again; it appeals to the recycler in me. The other thing that appeals to me is watching how well the couples work together on these projects. They do it right.
I am impressed by how well the married couples negotiate and compromise. They have many decisions to make about cost, location, time, money, design, and resale value. They do not always initially agree on everything, yet they always come to a compromise that they both can live with. They remind me of my husband and me. Jack and I have always worked well together on projects because we practice effective negotiations.
We have owned three homes so far. We did a major renovation on our first home and had our third home custom built. In both cases, we had decisions to make about cost, time, design, etc. We presented our ideas and discussed them respectfully. We do that in all our joint projects, large and small, which makes working together a truly satisfying experience.
Recently we decided to redo our front yard lawn, flowerbeds, and sprinklers. We hired a contractor who scheduled us for the first week in January. He called last Monday, said he had a cancellation, and asked if he could start the job on Tuesday. I was feeling up to it so we said yes. Tuesday morning, Jack and I sat at our kitchen table with a sketch of our front yard and a book of outdoor plants and decided on what we wanted in the flowerbeds. Then we went to the nursery, and with the help of the knowledgeable Lynn, got everything we needed for our landscaping project. Jack and I did not initially agree on every little thing, but we negotiated and compromised. In the end, we got what we wanted. We both won.
The Big Mystery
All this makes me wonder why the Democrats and Republicans cannot work well together. Why can’t they negotiate and compromise in such a way that is a win for everybody? “I win–You lose” is the most ineffective leadership imaginable, and yet, that seems to be both parties’ goal. The Democrats did it with health care, and in retaliation, the Republicans did it with tax reform. I just don’t get it. I think every member of Congress should be forced to watch these home improvement shows to see just how rewarding it is when two people with different opinions find a way to get along. Drats! I can’t remember the names of those shows. Oh, well. I have one more infusion session left. I will take notes.